The Good Stuff - Day Thirty

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

William Arthur Ward

Well I did what I set out to do, I made time each day (even on some pretty dismal days) to seek out "the good stuff".  I know it was kind of predictable --- choosing November as my month to try my hardest to adopt an attitude of gratitude.  But predictable or not, it was one of the best things I could have done. 

Like the quote above states, gratitude is transforming.  If you let it, it makes the blah stuff shine, the ho-hum stuff rock and the ever day stuff matter.  But even more, if you are in a season of mourning like I am, it makes the pain bearable.

I know better than to say I will continue to do this every day without fail, but I think I can safely say I will try.  My heavenly Father bestows a multitude of blessings on this ol' Mama Hen everyday.  I just gotta remember they are there --- I need only to stop, look and be grateful.

 

Today's good stuff?

Seeing Handel's Messiah with my chicklets.

What an awesome way to close out November and move full force into the holiday season!

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Nine

A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after.

Peter De Vries

Whew, what a day!  I put on my chauffeur's hat this morning and I was just able to take it off about an hour ago.  I don't usually do that much driving my chicklets from here to there, which I am extremely thankful for.  Man, those of you who do have my respect!  How do you do it?  One day of it and I am pooped!  I better get used to it a bit, 'cuz it's the new normal around here for a while.  The Munchkin is taking several classes around town and Boy Wonder's robotic season kicks off soon --- between the two of their schedules it looks like I am going to be a Mama Hen on the go for the next few months or more. 

I am actually pretty excited for the Munchkin.  Unlike Boy Wonder who went to a brick and mortar school and knows it is not for him, she has nothing to compare her schooling to.  It's kinda one of those "the grass is greener" things, and even when we try to explain that this is what works and what is best for our family, she sometimes wishes to be "in school" just so she can see what it's like.  Fortunately, there are some classes available locally over the next few months that will give her the taste of going to school.  Well, what I would call the "fun part" of going to school anyway.  We've enrolled her in some art and drama classes and if you know her, then you know these classes are right up her alley.

I have no idea where life will take my little chickie, but I know wherever she lands she'll be doing it in a style all her own.

 

Today's good stuff?

Watching my baby girl spread her wings and fly.

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Eight

I want a hot cup of cocoa with a marshmallow or two!

I want a hot cup of liquid love, only the choc’late kind will do!

Phyllis Aleta Wolfe

lyrics from the song "Hot Cup of Cocoa"

Boy Wonder used to be in our county's children's choir back before puberty took his sweet angelic singing voice away.  Those lyrics were part of one of the songs he performed in his last Christmas concert.  He and I were each drinking a cup of "liquid love" today and he started singing it to me in his now "deep as the basement" voice.  It was still good, but it just wasn't the same. 

Time marches on and there ain't a darn tootin' thing we can do to stop it.  Boy Wonder is just shy of six feet.  No longer a boy, but not yet quite a man.  The Munchkin is growing up so fast too.  I went to buy her shoes recently and discovered my baby girl wears women's size 7's!!!  And the Little Prince?  He will always be my baby, but he's making changes too.  He still has that sweet "baby talk" tone to his voice, but his sentences get bigger everyday. 

What was that old ad for Carter's I think?  "If they could just stay little 'til their Carter's wear out," wasn't it?  So true, especially since I just donated three of the most adorable footie pajama's to the thrift store today.  I had to fight back a tear or two as I can still vividly remember all three of my "babies" wearing them.

Today's good stuff?

Listening to my little guy playing make-believe.

He comes up with the craziest scenarios --- such a vivid imagination on that one!

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Seven

Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they're always there. 

Norman Vincent Peale

Well, one day down and three more to go on the "flying solo" parenting gig.  So far I only wanted to run away and change my name once.  Okay maybe twice, but who's counting?  At least I fed and clothed everyone and now they are all safely tucked into their beds and I've got a few hours of mindless television coming my way before I call it a night. 

I started out yesterday going down the path of thinking this week was going to get the best of me.  I mean come on, there's four of "them" and only one of me.  But experience has taught me a few things, like how a positive attitude changes everything (or at least makes things bearable) So I'm going to force myself to stay positive. 

And if that doesn't work?  Well, there's always running away ♥

Today's good stuff?

"Discovering" a local historical museum and learning things about my hometown I never knew.

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Six

“If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you”

A.A. Milne

I've got the blues today.  We just returned from the adventure to the East Coast and haven't yet settled back  into our old routines.  There are piles of laundry and three cranky chicklets to contend with.  To top it off, the Geek had to take a business trip and I've got to tackle it all by my lonesome.  He won't be gone long, but I still feel slightly "off" without him around. There are days I can just barely manage taking care of me --- being solely responsible for the care and feeding of five is almost enough to make me hide under the covers until his safe return home.

Today's good stuff?

Watching cheesy Christmas movies on the Hallmark channel.

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Five

The light is what guides you home, the warmth is what keeps you there. 

Ellie Rodriguez

Home at last!  Boston was a good place to visit and while I probably wouldn't mind living there ... for a while ... this is home.   The back porch light shined like a beacon to greet me, but I gotta tell ya, it ain't too warm inside at the moment.  My bedside thermometer says 39 so I am going to make this short and sweet 'cuz my fingers are freezing!

Today's good stuff?

Sleeping in my own bed --- even if I need a dozen blankets to stay toasty.

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Four

I have found out that there ain't no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them.

Mark Twain

That quote hits pretty close to home today.  "Hate" is such a strong word though, "want to sell to the gypsies" is probably apropos in this instance.  My three chicklets were none too happy to leave their East Coast cousins this morning.  To show their disdain they have banded together and chosen to be serious pains in the keester.  The two oldest did nothing but bicker and the little one whined for 8-plus hours.  If I didn't love them, I would be tempted to leave 'em at the hotel in the morning.  Don't worry, I would never actually do it ... it was just a thought that passed through my mind when I had to listen to the umpteenth complaint about how someone was in someone else's space.  Gah!  

You know what would be an awesome option on a minivan? A soundproof barrier between the front and back seats.  They could call it the "family travel package".  Just imagine ... the kiddies could whine and complain to their heart's content and mama wouldn't have to hear a thing. Ahhh!  Now that'd be a vacation!

Today's good stuff?

A nice long hot shower with plenty of water pressure. 

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Three

Family

like branches on a tree

we all grow in different directions,

yet our roots remain as one.

I hope you and yours had a yummy Thanksgiving.  We sure did on this end!  My sister-in-law is a good cook --- even if she does roast her brussel sprouts (which, by the way, I found out weren't so bad after all).  But in the end it wasn't just the food that made the day so special, it was spending it with family and feeling the love we share wrapping us all up in a great big hug.  There were a few times that a tear or two slipped out as we thought and reminisced about Daddy, especially when my mama shared what she was most grateful for this year --- 86 years on this earth & 68 of those spent with the man she loved.  She prayed that we all would be as blessed as she in this life.  She then gave us a hand drawn family tree with Daddy and her as the roots and all of my siblings and I as the branches.  Grandchildren's names were on leaves and her great grandchildren's were on apples.  I wish I could post it, but for privacy's sake I can't.  You'll have to trust me -- it's priceless.

Today's good stuff?

The new pair of walking shoes my sweet sister-in-law bought me as an early Christmas present and you wanna know the best part? I didn't even have to step one foot in a store on Black Friday to get 'em ---she did all the work!

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-Two

Thanksgiving, man.  Not a good day to be my pants.

Kevin James

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours from me and mine!

Today's good stuff?

Elastic waistbands!

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty-One

Cooking is like love.  It should be entered into with abandon or not at all.

Harriet Van Horne

"Not for Jiffy Cooks," Vogue magazine, 1956

Spent the day shopping and prepping for tomorrow's great feeding frenzy.  We are sharing the Thanksgiving holiday with relatives we don't get to see all that often.  So far we've been getting along splendidly, and while I have no reason to not expect that to continue, there are a few differences of opinion that showed themselves in the kitchen today.

I have always believed there are two kinds of people in the world ... those who like whole cranberry sauce and those that prefer the geletanus glob that comes outta a can.  I'm a geletanus kinda girl, how about you?  

My sister-in-law started making a pot of whole cranberry sauce with orange zest this afternoon.  Say it isn't so!  Funny, how you think think you know a person.  You come to love a person and see them as a sister and not just an in-law and then you come to find out just how diametrically different you both are.  I mean I still enjoy her company, but can we ever be really all that close again?  Next thing I know she'll be roasting the brussel sprouts instead of steaming the heck out 'em ...   oh, that's right that's what she's planning to do.  Should we pack up and go home? Should we stand our ground and insist on our way or the highway? 

 Well I guess we might be able to work things out.  She does make a mean pomegranate martini and after one (or two or three) of those the whole jelllied vs. whole cranberry thing doesn't seem all that deal-breaking anymore:)

Today's good stuff?

Those pomegranate martinis I mentioned :) 

The Good Stuff - Day Twenty

You're never fully dressed without a smile.
Lyrics from the musical, Annie

When the Munchkin was just a wee babe I loved to dress her up in cute little outfits.  Trips to The Boutique (aka the thrift store) always seemed to yield the sweetest things.  My mama  once commented that I changed her so much it was like she was my baby doll, and in a way she was.  Little boy's clothes just aren't as darling as little girlie stuff!

Well, fast forward a bit ... I still love to hunt down bargains at our favorite Salvation Army store only now she's starting to have her own sense of style.  She loves vintage clothes ... she loves it when it's  not just like what everyone else is wearing.  I love her fashion sense and look forward to watching how she refines it in the coming years.  She has such enviable self confidence and I pray she never loses her sparkle:)

Today's good stuff?

Seeing the Munchkin rock her style.

Tried to post pic but having trouble...check back later

The Good Stuff - Day Nineteen

Today's good stuff?

Beautiful weather for a road trip  ... even the dreaded orange barrels couldn't bring me down:)

The Good Stuff - Day Eighteen

At the end of the day, a loving family should find everything forgivable.

Mark V. Olsen and Will Sheffer

Today was a day full of temper tantrums, whining and sassy attitudes --- and the kiddies weren't too wonderful either ;)  I don't know why, but everyone (except Grandma who seems blissfully oblivious to the tension surrounding her) put on their cranky pants this morning.   The Munchkin has a partial excuse --- she has been under the weather for a few days.  And I guess the Geek is a bit overworked and stretched pretty thin because of his job.  I might even give the Little Prince some little lee-way since he too is feeling a little on the funky side of healthy.  Boy Wonder's grumpalumpishness is mostly due to adolescent angst and the surge of hormones running through his man-child body. 

I guess that just leaves me without a good reason for my foul mood.  Dang it, hate it when that happens!  So much easier when I can put the blame on someone else.  Just for that, this Mama Hen needs to take a 10 minute time out.  Wait, I have been extra witchy ... better make it 30 minutes!

Today's good stuff?

Finding a few moments to play with yarn.

The Good Stuff - Day Seventeen

Well, it appears I spoke too soon --- the Munchkin still has the sickies.  She was fine for almost two days, but after tonight's dinner ... not so much.  I made a quick call to our pediatrician's office and was told that this is going around.  A crazy stomach virus that comes and goes a few times before being gone for good.  I sure hope she kicks this thing soon, as we are making plans for a Thanksgiving road trip.  I am soooo not up to road-trippin' with a sick chick!

please excuse my primitive graphics

Today's good stuff?

♥ ♥ ♥ Hershey's Pumpkin Spice Kisses  ♥ ♥ ♥

Have you tried them yet?

Someday I will post a recipe using these

little bites of pumpkin goodness.

The Good Stuff - Day Sixteen

Good news!  The plague seems to be lifting on the ol' farmstead.  The Munchkin and the Little Prince have been "incident" free for almost 24 hours --- woo hoo! To say I am grateful about that would be a vast understatement.  There are a lot of less than desirable parts of parenthood -- the dirty diapers, the occasional boogie, etc. --- but the "technicolor yawns" are by far the absolute worst for me.  The absolute worst!

I needed to give myself something to do to get my mind off the spewing episodes, so I did a little "window shopping" on Pinterest.  Several minutes later ---- oh, who am I kidding --- a good hour later I felt extremely inadequate for all the uber-craftiness I don't possess.  I also felt somewhat guilty for all the blah suppers that typically grace the dinner table.  To assuage my mother-guilt, I decided to treat the brood to a culinary masterpiece the likes of which they had never experienced.  I then decided --- Meh! I don't feel that motivated so I settled for a something relatively quick to prepare.  I chose this.  In my defense, this is not a wimpy dish ---this puppy is on steroids!  I love my motley crew and this offering seemed to scream our personal love-language.  You see, here on the farm nothing says "I Love  You!" like copious amounts of cheese.  I pulled out all the stops and whipped together a main dish that should come with a cardiologist's phone number.  I kid you not, there is so much cheese in this entree I probably sent a dairy farmer's kid to college making this bad boy!
And my brood's verdict? It was unanimous --- it's a keeper!  Don't just take our word for it, try it out yourself.  Be warned, you'll have enough to feed a small army.  I fed six (including one teenage boy that eats enough for three) and there's enough for at least another six more hungry mouths or more.  As I said it has mega amounts of cheese, but the recipe makes a ton so you really don't get that much in each serving.  At least that's how I justified it for myself :)

Plain Chicken's Baked Spagansa

 

Today's good stuff?
Enjoying some serious comfort food with my peeps.

Behold the power of cheese!

do you remember those commercials?

The Good Stuff - Day Fifteen

"I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once."

Jennifer Yane

I'm a little too pooped to pen a meaningful post today.  I was up half the night with the Little Prince.  It appears he has a bit of a stomach bug --- yeah, not my favorite way to be woken from a sound sleep in the middle of the night.  It also appears he has passed said bug on to the Munchkin.  It ain't pretty folks!  Everyone else here on the farm is waiting with bated breath to see who might get "hit" next.  Please God don't let it be me! 

Today's good stuff?

Taking a moment to watch my little man nap. 

The Good Stuff - Day Fourteen

Mothers of teenagers know why animals eat their young.

There are days where I am amazed at the fine young man Boy Wonder is becoming.  I stand in awe of his intelligence and insatiable quest for acquiring knowledge.   His quick wit and willingness to help others are commendable.  He is truly a joy to have around.  Yeah, there are days I am thrilled the he is my eldest chicklet.  Today? Not one of those days, folks.

Apparently today is "Give Your Mother Grief at Every Possible Moment and Hold Her Personally Responsible for All That is Wrong in Your Poor Teenage Life" Day.  Yeah, it seems I didn't get the memo that the fact that he has no clean clothes to wear because his sorry self did not manage to get the pile of clothes living under his bed into a basket and into the laundry room despite several requests is in actuality all my fault.  And the fact that he didn't eat lunch with the rest of us because he said he wasn't hungry when he really was hungry which ultimately resulted in the fact that that by the time dinner rolled around he was in such a state of what could only be labeled hunger induced beastly-ness?  You guessed it --- my fault once again!  I won't even insult your intelligence by asking you to guess whose fault it was that his hair decided that today was not the day it was going to go just the right way.  I mean what rock was someone living under if they could not see that it looked just horrible and not pretty much like it does every other freakin' day of the year?

Gah!

I may be preaching to the choir here, but parenting teens is not for the faint of heart!  Can I get an amen?  I shudder to think that I have to go through this two more times --- God help me!

source

 

Today's good stuff?

A nice warm cup of cocoa to sooth my wearied soul.  Mmmmm!

The Good Stuff - Day Thirteen

“So when you're cold
From the inside out
And don't know what to do,
Remember love and friendship,
And warmth will come to you.”  

Stephen Cosgrove

Gnome from Nome

This has been a crazy year.  It seems like only yesterday we were putting the air conditioners in the windows of the farmhouse, and now I'm freezing my patootie off.  Can you say "brrrr" ?  According to the trusty thermometer on the back porch it is 30 degrees outside.  That's a bit cold, but what really puts a chill in this ol' bird's bones is that it is only 60 degrees inside.  Oops, I lied.  My handy dandy bedside thermometer says 56.   Where did I put those long johns?

We heat the farmhouse with wood heat.  It usually does a pretty good job of keeping my tootsies toasty, but unfortunately the Geek hasn't had much time to gather firewood this fall.  Up to now it hasn't been too unbearable, but I think it's time to put it at the top of my "honey - do" list don't you?  I hate to nag, but my fingers are getting numb!

Today's good stuff?

A double "play date" for the Munchkin and me. 

She got a friendship ring and I got to enjoy some grown up conversation for a change -- what a treat! 

The Good Stuff - Day Twelve

Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them. 

Brendan Francis

The Munchkin has decided that she is deathly afraid of going alone upstairs in the ol' farmhouse.  She says the creaks and rattles are just too scary to face all by herself.  I tried explaining that it's just the wind and the house settling from time to time (it is over a hundred years old --- it's entitled to a little whining dontcha think?) but the little lady is still wary.  Even armed with a logical explanation, she holds tight to her fears of the unknown.

I don't know about you, but I can relate.  Oh, I'm not afraid of the boogieman getting me (most of the time anyway) but that "unknown stuff" --- it sometimes scares the bejeebies outta me.  

There are times my mind gets stuck on the big "what ifs".  What would happen if the Geek lost his job?  What would I do if something terrible happened to my sweetie or one of my kids?  What would I do if Mom became extremely disabled and harder to care for? 

Sometimes it's the little "what ifs" that cause me to freak a bit.  There's no clean clothes, what am I going to wear?  Oh crud, I forgot to grocery shop---what are we gonna have for dinner? You get the picture.

 “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes."

Matthew 6:34 -- The Message

I've always tried to remember that Bible verse when I start to go down the dark path of fear and worry.   Just like I try to tell the Munchkin to turn on the light and it won't be so scary, those words are a "light" to me that remind me I have nothing to be afraid of either --- God's got it covered. 

Today's good stuff?

I've been listening to alot of Christian music lately.  This song is song that always brings a smile to my face.  How could you not be joyful when you are singing along to this?

The Good Stuff - Day Eleven

The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you've had.

Author Unknown

 
I've never had a lot of friends.  As my blog header states, I am more of an observer of life.  I prefer to stand off to the side of things and make fun of people watch.  Making a friend requires me to step out of my comfort zone on the sidelines and that's just not something I care to do very often. Thank.you.very.much.

I took such a chance once with the Munchkin's Godmother.  Our lives have taken us in different directions since we first met and she and I aren't able to get together all that often, but I am sure she will always be a dear friend.

My bestest friend and I met in college many moons ago.  It is nearly impossible to put into words how much her friendship means to me.  I don't get to see or talk to her as much as I might like, but whenever we do it's like no time has passed and we pick up right where we left off the last time we spoke.  It's one of those blessings that comes along once in a lifetime and I never take it for granted.  (If you are reading this, I hope you know how I love ya buddy!)

Through the years I've had some other people come and go in my life.  I guess I could go as far as calling some of them friends.  They came along during certain "seasons" of my life and just like the seasons change and go on their merry way, so did they.  Some I will never forget and some --- if I am being honest --- I would just as soon not remember.

Right now I am in yet another season of my life --- the homeschooling season.  I recently met a woman at a local event for homeschoolers.  Our daughters instantly clicked and we realized that in a way, so did we.  We found ourselves sharing bits and pieces of our life stories and philosophies on homeschooling.  It was a pleasant surprise discovering just how much we had in common. 

Today she invited the Munchkin and I to see a local theater production of Fiddler on the Roof that she and her daughter were performing in.  I don't know what exactly I was expecting, but let's just say it far exceeded my expectations! I would go as far to say in was incredibly awesome!  (The Munchkin concurs)  Apparently she had held back a bit of personal info --- as it turns out she was once had a  professional career in music.  What a cowinky dink!  Something we else had in common --- beautiful singing voices --- not!  'Tis true my vocal stylings may be far from beautiful (as my best friend can attest) but I can still appreciate true talent when I hear it.

I will never have another best friend.  That is a lifetime position held only by one of the most special people in this world.  I am eternally grateful for her friendship and love.  I'm also grateful for the other people who come and go in my life and bless me, even if only for a short time, with their friendship too.  I pray that I am a blessing to them as well.

 

Today's good stuff?

Spending some one on one time with The Munchkin --- Something I need to make time for more often